Fuck Confidence. Feel Connection.

Fuck Confidence. Feel Connection.
"I wish I was more confident when presenting in an important meeting."
"What are you so afraid of happening if you're not?"
"Well, they might not get me, they might think my idea is weird and just disconnect."
"So, what you really want is connection."
"Well, I want them to get my ideas and we all think it's great."
"That makes sense. But confidence won't give you that."
"Oh."
"Confidence means with belief. Sure, it's nice to believe in yourself but ultimately it won't give you the agreement of others. What you are looking for is connection and making sure everyone is actually on board with you."
"Yes. But how do I do that when they are not? I can be a bit awkward, you know"
"Sure, we all can! Especially us creative brains, we can sail our ship far from the common understanding."
"Right!?"
"So let's get vulnerable. Let's face the elephants in the room. Let's just call it out. If you feel you've lost your audience. Fuck confidence. Go for vulnerability and create connection."
"How?"
"You can say: 'Hey I think I've lost you. Where did I lose you? Was it the idea of the spaceship shooting spaghetti or before? Or do I just smell funny?'"
"Oh I see! You want me to address what I sense?"
"Yes, that's our superpower. Let's create real connection. Vulnerability and authenticity - being real with people does just that. Then you can connect and everything is easier in connection."
"That is true. Fuck confidence. Feel connection."