Stop focusing on the out-cum!

Orgasm fixation is not a productive strategy.

Let’s say you are creating your content for the months ahead, and you don’t know how to get on with it because you’re looking at the screen, but nothing good seems to just flow today. You are trying to speak sense into your camera to create compelling videos. But it feels like you are waffling. You are an expert with a lot to share. People pay you for your advice - shouldn’t this be easy? Why is it not coming out?!

What if you went to your partner and told them that you needed an orgasm right now within the next hour? How would they react? Ok, maybe it’s kinky the first time around, but the novelty wears off, right? Good sex doesn’t generally happen from the place of expectation of a great orgasm.

We are more likely to experience great sex when we relax, relate and let go. Tune into each other and the experience.

Yet when it comes to a creative project, we are tempted to allow the good feeling only when it’s done. That’s like saying Ok, once I’ve orgasmed I can feel good.

Until I’ve done the hard work, there will be no orgasm.
Stop focussing on the out-cum!
When you deal with a project allow yourself to be creative.

Treat yourself less like a hyperfunctioning robot and more like an artist.
Treat yourself less like a service provider and more like a valued lover.
Give yourself time to enjoy and relish.
Chill. Listen to music, meditate, have a dilly dally goalless time to let your mind roam.
Then get back to the board with stories to tell…

You won't forget that happy end. ;-)