Angry with yourself? You're not alone.

Have you ever gotten so angry with yourself that you didn't know where to throw your head?

Sure, you can throw the anger on the next best person or thing, but you know when you know that you really are pissed with yourself...?

How often are you anxious about something, pull yourself together and tell yourself it’s ok, only to still feel flustered inside?

Remember when your mother told you to stop crying? Told you that you should pull yourself together? Remember how you felt? It wasn’t exactly helpful, was it?

When we aren't met emotionally, we shut down.
What you needed in that moment was to be soothed. Held. Hugged. But most of us learned that when we are in distress, we have to "get on with it".

So, we treat ourselves the same way. Kat feels under pressure because she has a big speech coming up. She can’t focus. She can’t think of anything else, and she’s terrified. She has had countless conversations with herself: "Just calm down." "Everything is going to be fine!"

And then she wonders why her entire system is rattled; her head goes in a spin, and she can’t calm the f*ck down.

Sound familiar? Here is what you need: Be with yourself; that little scared, worried self.

Instead of saying, “Gee, you make a fuss about nothing!” she’d tell herself: “I got you. This is exciting, and you are allowed to be scared. Of course, you are a bit worried. That makes sense!” Acknowledge it and parent yourself like you wish a parent would.

Now that we are ‘grown ups’, it’s our job to take our inner child by the hand and gently help them grow. Nurture yourself and watch yourself blossom.

This is how my clients manage to shine in interviews, speeches & presentations. Kat's speech was a success because she was able to be fully present. And that ‘happened’ because the little girl inside had been really taken care of.

You can’t bully yourself into happiness. Your potential requires kindness… who knew?

When you are ready to get the nurturing coaching to bring your full genius to life, apply for a spot in our Mastermind Group. Limited availability. Real results.